Dear Friends,
I will no longer write, “and Colleagues” in my addressing you, since I
currently divide most time between family, practice, and all of you!
I have started telling my wife before getting on the computer, “Just
going to spend some time with friends.”…..I no longer see my friends
outside. Like it or not, I have adopted ALL of you as friends.
OK…. from here on out, could people not hold back and really share
how they feel about Bob and me. Way too quiet out there…..no
passion, no strong convictions……:)
We are a passionate group, hey? Think about it. If we could
transform people’s feelings into electricity we could light up Chicago
for weeks during the holidays. Better yet, if we transform all this
passion into the hard work that needs to be done for the well being of
our field, we will succeed big time.
I must say that being the “young” guy at 58 is great, especially when
considering the aching longer after long runs, or having more frequent
back spasms from carrying sleeping 4 1/2 year old twins from the car
and up the stairs. Don Rosenblitt even said it would be like I was
“cutting teeth” as a president. I’m getting seriously “younger” as
this campaign goes on!
Thanks to everyone for posting. I hope, whether you support me or not,
that you know I read or “listen,” to ALL of you and your ideas, your
visions about how to move forward. It has an impact. Really. I want
to respond to directly to Drew, Don, Steven, and some others, not to
single you out, rather, because I know if you are thinking certain
ways about me, others probably are as well. This might be a way to
“speak to the larger group.”
Drew and Don, I am a psychoanalyst, just like both of you. That is
what we all have, always will have in common. We both want what is
best for APsaA, for our profession, and for our colleagues. We have
different ideas about how to accomplish those things. I am NOT the
voice or representative of any “faction.” That’s a bit dismissive.
The majority of members voted for bylaw reform and I don’t believe you
both really think over the half the membership is a “faction.” That
misrepresents me and the majority of members. And please note that my
endorsements represent many colleagues with very different points of
view, experience, history, etc. Many contribute to my own voice and
ideas just as they do to yours. But it remains my voice and the voice
of many other members.
But Drew, much more importantly—remember what you and your colleagues
in Cleveland, with Richard Lightbody, taught me, and the Committee on
Foundations years ago? One of our best COF meetings. Dick Settel
(sp), I believe was his name, the retired G.E. executive, former
Marine, who was on your foundation board, insisted that Cleveland must
reorganize and he almost locked all of you up in his house for a
couple of weekends until you battled, discussed, and compromised a way
through a reorganization plan to become a center. We were in awe, not
because you came up with a “perfect” plan and I know there have been
problems since. But you seriously tried something new, innovative,
fresh, a new way forward, holding on to what was working and letting
go of what was not working. I have never forgotten that lesson or
weekend. Please read my positions statement (www.markdsmaller.com).
It’s in there. What I learned in Cleveland years ago helped me to
transform the Neuropsychoanalysis Foundation 6 years ago to what it
has become—a vibrant foundation supporting an exciting and relatively
young new field and new area of psychoanalysis.
Don, you are right. We don’t know each other well. However, what I
do know is that we share a common passionate commitment to analysis,
to child analysis in and outside our outside our offices. I would
love for you to come to Chicago and visit my school, sit in on one of
my groups and see what we are doing. And I would love to come down to
North Carolina and visit your school, the Lucy Daniels Center for
Early Childhood Center, and see what I could learn from you and your
staff as I am learning from Allen Creek in Ann Arbor, or our whole
consortium of psychoanalytic schools. Lucy Daniels was always an
important contributor to COF.
Leadership, it seems to me, is built on considering and sorting out
many different points of view, without ever forgetting, not for one
second, what binds us together, what is important beyond political
view–psychoanalysis and the future of our field. I am committed to
that.
I don’t know Steve Bernstein personally. But I wanted to respond
directly to you as well. Although I very much appreciated Paul
Mosher’s support, what I wrote him after reading his thoughtful
posting was to share that my best psychoanalytic teachers, those who
had the most influence my career were those who seemed to sort of glow
with generativity. One who remains on my mind because we lost her
last year was Marian Tolpin. Whether you agreed or disagreed with her
psychoanalytic point of view, she never forgot your name, she never
failed to ask about what YOU were working on in the field, and always,
with great enthusiasm emphasized the importance of going forward with
new ideas, working on them whether they agreed with yours or not. She
loved new ideas. It was no coincidence that one of her most important
contributions was her paper on, “The Forward Edge,” which emphaszied
the forward edge of development and treatment. It is the foundation
of what we do in my ASAP Program in Chicago.
But Steve, without Marian and her wisdom about all kinds of things, I
would not be where I am in my work. I miss her terribly. And there
have been many others, Marvin Margolis being central for me in APsaA,
which is why when I began this campaign early in the fall I drove to
Detroit to have breakfast with him, and later to the Benefit in his
honor. I would not be running were it not for Marvin. He provided so
much opportunity for me and many of us.
But Paul’s mentioning of age hit a hot spot, and raises an incredibly
important point more about APsaA than the election itself. Being
generative is something essential to an ever growing association or
field. New ideas, new organizational structure, new and innovative
ways of educating, new committee chairs, etc. I smiled about the
whole issue because I have already begun, almost without thinking
about it in APsaA, and my foundation. It was completely an outgrowth
of what others have done for me.
I already have a younger colleague, Will Braun, 35 years old (can you
believe it….35! younger than one of my kids), who as the co-chair of
the Committee on Public Information, practices, and consults at George
Jackson Academy, and has more energy, more ideas, more enthusiasm than
me. And Maggie Zellner, who some of you in New York know from our
monthly Neuropsychoanalysis lectures has now taken over many of my
responsibilities over in the foundation. Maggie, a graduate of NPAP
and is not a member of APsaA, though I am working on that, is a 42
year old analyst and neuropsychologist and has that same energy and
enthusiasm as well. And there are others.
I want to emphasize that this is not about age per se, its about being
generative as an organization, absolutely in the sense of Erikson. If
we want candidates to be more involved in APsaA, newer members to be
more active, we must enthusiastically invite them, as many of us were,
not just to meetings but to specific committees andTgive them
leadership opportunities as quickly as we can. With our newer members
being older than years before, most are already accomplished in other
fields and we need their talents. Many of us already do this, but we
need more of this kind of attitude and atmosphere. It can only
increase morale.
I want to thank many of you have written privately, and on the OPLN.
I am extremely grateful, I have written most of you privately and will
continue today. And others who raise concerns about me, keep writing
publicly or privately and I will try to respond to your concerns.
As we say in Chicago, VOTE EARLY, AND OFTEN! Seriously, this is an
incredibly important election.
Ok…..we finally had serious snow here in west Michigan. Sledding a
must………..
Best regards,
Mark